People want to have fun. I want to dance a lot and well. Everybody is waiting for a dance. People want to find a guy/girl for a date. Want, want, want ; ego, ego, ego. Where is the loyality in social tango or does there exist a habit of selfishness?
Some people are acting, as if they have written ego on their front head. Sure, it is human to have an ego. We may think in ourselves first, when it comes to welbeing, but this does not automatically mean that you may ignore other people’s needs. Does loyality in social tango exsists?
What comes into your mind when you think of dancing socially?
The dance floor is a small universe, a tiny copy of society. Like in every society behavior of the people mirror education, manners and culture.
“Loyalities are feelings of friendship, support or duty towards someone or something.”
Do we support and help others? Are we interested in other people’s problems. Do we act in loyality or selfishness to our tango peers?
What I am addressing here is our support and assistance on and next to the dance floor.
It is all about taking and giving, like in the real world.
Are you sure you are ready to give something, or do you just belong to the group of takers?
You want to have fun. Are you giving fun to others?
You want to dance a lot. Are you sure not to be picky? Do you share your dance-time with beginners as well? Have you socialized enogh to know many people?
You only want to dance with advanced dancers. Do you dance well yourself? Are your skills good enough for those dancers you would intend to dance with? Imagine, those advanced dancers want to find eaqual partners as well to be able to enjoy to the fullest.
You want to meet a guy/girl for dating. Are you sure you signalize your intention in a most sophisticated way?
You probably will think, sure I am doing all that already.I am very social, I dance with everybody , I am nice and friendly and never in a bad mood…But then…
About the habit of selfishness.
Some men dancing with women just of the selfish fun to be close to the opposit gender, preferable to young and pretty beginners, who are afraid to reject as they want to be polite.
A few women dancing non-stop as if there will be no other Milonga happening anymore. Selfishly taking away the chances for other women to dance while there are only few men attending?
What really matters is loyality in social tango.
Some thoughts while waiting for a dance.
About the needless victims on the dance floor.
Let’s give space for some loyality in social tango.
Get rid of the habit of selfishness.